My partner doesn’t respect my boundaries?
What should I do?
Dear Without Boundaries:
My specialty is in helping people to move into self-care by setting healthy boundaries. Setting boundaries and following through on them can be tough when we have low self-esteem. I have added a link to my recent podcast on how setting healthy boundaries is an act of extreme self-care.
Here’s what I know for sure. When you don’t set healthy boundaries, and follow through on a consistent basis, you are teaching people how to treat you. Setting boundaries is great, but there is one step that most people miss when they are creating a boundary, and that is the follow-through. If you don’t follow through with the consequence of crossing a boundary, a boundary means nothing to some. Disrespect becomes more and more obvious when we don’t follow through.
Your partner may surprise you when you do set healthy boundaries. They will either honour and respect your boundary or try to cross it. And once they cross the boundary, you must not give them a chance to do it again.
If you take nothing else away from this, I want you to know this. Self-esteem plays a huge part in how we proceed. Are you willing to live in a state of chaos? Confusion? Disrespect and more? If someone is disrespectful and crosses boundaries, do you really want that person in your life?
You want to make them happy right? What about you? Don’t you deserve better?
I think you do.
Need help? Got a relationship or self-esteem question you want to ask? Want to book an appointment with Caterina? Contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org or text her at 778-877-0682.
Caterina Barregar, Relationship Coach Specializing In Self Esteem
Medical Intuitive, Reiki Master
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